TFT and Cyber Bullying

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Cyber Bullying and Low Self-Esteem: A Social Nightmare

By Dr. Victoria Yancey, TFT-DX, TFT-ADV

Young people around the globe are taking their own lives because of cyber bullying. Teen suicides have occurred within the past ten years in Missouri, Florida, New York, Vermont, Massachusetts, Canada, United Kingdom, Italy and numerous other cities and towns.

Cyber bullying has created a social nightmare and has caused far too many teens to hang themselves, jump from bridges or find other ways to harm themselves. The number of suicides continues to grow with the easy access to and the increasing number of social media sites available to teens.

Cyber bullying is using digital technology to harass, embarrass, threaten, torment, humiliate or to make another person feel uncomfortable or scared. A study was conducted in 2010 by Cyber bullying research. It involved approximately 2,000 randomly selected middle school students from school districts in the United States.

The study revealed that of the students 20% reported seriously thinking about attempting suicide. Those figures include 19.7% females and 20.9% males. The results also showed that 19% reported actually attempting suicide with 17.9% females and 20.2% males. In addition, it is suggested that cyber bullying can cause emotional scarring, since it involves threats and humiliation.

Cyber bullying victims were almost twice as likely to have attempted suicide compared to youth who had not experienced cyber bullying.

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TFT for Paris Shooting Trauma

Paris ShootingThe TFT Foundation offers its sincere condolences to those in France affected by the recent shootings. Please let anyone you know that has been traumatized by this tragic event about our site, which has the instructions for the TFT trauma relief technique in 14 languages, including French. Here is the link you can pass along: www.TFTtraumarelief.com.

La fondation TFT présente ses sincères condoléances à ceux en France qui ont été affectés par les fusillades récentes. Faites connaître notre site s’il vous plait, à toute personne de votre connaissance  traumatisée par cet événement tragique. Il contient les instructions de la technique TFT d’allègement des traumatismes dans 14 langues différentes dont le français. Voici le lien que vous pouvez diffuser largement : http://www.TFTtraumarelief.com.

 

 

TFT and Bullying

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Thought Field Therapy and Bullying

By Dr. Victoria Yancey, TFT-DX, TFT-ADV

“You are fat, stupid and ugly.”This is just one example of the taunting that some students endure from peers and classmates. These and other harmful statements are instances of bullying. Bullying is a form of violence.

It is negative, aggressive and unwanted behaviors to cause harm, hurt or humiliation. It is anything that hurts another person, when things are repeatedly said or done to have power over that individual.

There are many types of bullying. There is racial bullying, sexual bullying and cyber bullying. Bullying includes name calling, saying or writing derogatory comments, purposely excluding an individual from activities, spreading lies and rumors, ignoring, threatening, doing anything to make another person feel uncomfortable or scared, stealing or damaging belongings of others, kicking, hitting, slapping, making someone do things they do not want to do.

When Thought Field Therapy (TFT) was taught to a group of students they reported using TFT when confronted with the violence of being picked on or bullied.

Children handle being bullied in many different ways. Those who are bullied are subject to peer pressure. Sometimes they end up doing something they really do not want to do in order to “fit in” hoping that the bullying will stop.

Those who are bullied often feel pain, fear or hurt. They lose self-confidence and feel lonely, scared and sad. They sometimes do not feel safe at school, home or at play and often have poor grades in school.

They may suffer from depression, headaches, stomach aches and other health problems and they may also have thoughts of suicide. Some feel it necessary to fight or bring a gun or weapon to school to stop the hurt of being bullied.

I worked with a group of middle school students who felt they where being bullied. The students where referred to me by their parents because they where getting into trouble in school. Many of the students were receiving declining or failing grades. Some of the students had either experienced detentions or suspensions, in or outside of school, for fighting.

When meeting with the students they explained the reason for their getting into fights was because they felt they were being “picked on.” They explained that a group of students constantly bullied them and they got into the fights because they felt angry and wanted to lash out against the bullying.

Statistics reveal that one out of every 4 students are bullied, picked on, or abused each month. In addition, thirty percent of students in the United States admit to being bullies, victims of bullies, bystanders (those who witness bullying) or have participated in all three roles (Olweus, 2001.

My work with the group began with explaining Thought Field Therapy after their discussion of anxiety and fear of being picked on and bullied and having to fight to try to solve this problem. The students rated their Subjective Unit of Distress (SUD) after tuning into the thought field. The SUD ratings ranged from ten or above for fear and anxiety to seven.

I began leading the students through Psychological Reversal to correct any reversals that may negatively effect the treatment. I then taught them the algorithm for General Anxiety and Stress, e (under eye), a (under arm) and c (collar bone). We checked the SUDs then continued by repeating psychological reversal and the majors since the SUD did not go down by two points for all in the group. We repeated the majors. This was followed with the 9 gamut since the SUDs subsequently lowered by at least two points for all students in the group.

We continued in this way until the SUD for each student was down to zero or one. The students reported feeling better, they explained feeling better meant that they where having fun doing Thought Field Therapy and they did not feel tense and angry when they thought about being picked on.

Studies show that the less confidence a student has the more likely they are to be bullied. The more confidence a student shows the less likely it is that bullying will occur (Fulker, 2010).

They continued to practice the steps of Thought Field Therapy until they learned the algorithms. The students agreed to use Thought Field therapy throughout the week when they felt like fighting, scared or feeling less confident.

When the students arrived the next week they were laughing and talking with a completely different affect from the previous week when they where somber, sad and angry. The students reported using Thought Field Therapy throughout the week. All of them explained that they did not participate in any fights during the week. They all told experiencing of tapping when feeling scared.

One student explained that she was able to concentrate on her school work and was able to pass her math test because for the first time she was able to study. But the most compelling comment came from one student who was constantly engaged in fighting and was on the verge of being expelled from school although she was the victim of bullying.

She stated, “I didn’t fight when some kids where picking on me. I just started tapping and walked away.”

Fulker, B. (2010). Help your child beat bullying and gain confidence. Birthmarks.com USA.

Olweus, D. (2001). Peer harassment: A critical analysis and some important issues. In Peer Harassment in School, ed. J. Juvonen and S. Graham. New Yor k: Guilford Publications.

Salmivalli, C. Lagerspetz, K. Björkqvist, K. Osterman, K. Kaukiainen, A. (1996) Bullying as a group process: Participant roles and their relations to social status within the group. Aggressive Behavior 22 (1-15).

Excerpted from “Tapping for Humanity,” Winter, 2014

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TFT for Rwandan Orphans

Clestin OrphansJuly 2014 – Orphans Learn To Tap Away Their Fears, Anxiety and Depression
by Celestin Mitabu (Kigali, Rwanda)

I was invited to the Rutongo Orphanage to treat the children, victims of HIV, malnutrition and parental mental sickness. The invitation came from the Director, a nun who had experienced the results of TFT several years ago while in Kigali. She invited us to practice and teach TFT to the children.

It was not easy to get time because we were busy with tapping during the commemoration but we tried to spare some time so that children may benefit too. Young girls, (the orphanage is only for girls) were suffering from depression and much anxiety.

In fact, during our treatment for this year (20th commemoration) most of what we treated was all about depression and anxiety. From our experience depression has been a big problem affecting many people and we managed to help them with TFT.

One evening as I was revising my TFT notes and trying to read more about depression I even went to Google trying to compare depression symptoms and causes with what we experience. As I was reading about the symptoms of Depression and those of Trauma, they seem to be the same. I came to realize that where there is trauma there may be a possibility of depression.

excerpted from “Tapping for Humanity,” Fall, 2014

TFT in Mexico

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TFT HEALS MEXICO
by Brenda Ignorosa

When I knew Tapping Therapy was coming to Mexico, I did all my homework. I read all about TFT and Roger and Joanne Callahan, but when Suzanne Connolly (our teacher) came into the room, I didn’t know what to expect.

I only knew I felt anxiety and fear about a trip that I am going to take. Every past day I woke up with stomach pain and with many other emotions, except peace.

When Suzanne started explaining, everyone was so quiet, trying to understand…In my humble opinion, it is that in Mexico we are not so open yet to all these “alternative” therapies and techniques….

However, the most important thing, is that in our country and maybe all around the world, we have a boom of yoga, therapies, gurus, meditation… But we don’t know who is giving us the complete truth. Sadly, there are a lot of charlatans around these things.

Getting back to my point, the course was without words… Literally… I started the course thinking like in school: I will have a theory and a practice. But TFT is all about experience. There is no a theory and no steps to follow, there is only to feel.

At the end of the first day, we were all laughing. About what? I don’t know, we just felt good. What happened? Again, I really don’t know, I just tapped certain parts of my body, thought about my problems and Bam! I know it sounds like magic, but don’t be scared if it is the first time you read about this.

It all makes sense: Certain parts of your body are connected to your emotions, and your emotions to your brain. So if you press pre-determined points, you unblock the energy…

By the end of the day, I was relieved of that anxiety, really! Not forgetting that, of course, like a good human that I am (haha), I tried to get back to that emotion, but I couldn’t, it was really beautiful. I am grateful!

The second day, we were already strong enough to help other people. We worked with them and we also worked on our own issues.

Nevertheless, the third day was the best!!! The doctors and nurses that were in the course, brought some of their patients to the course so Suzanne could help heal them. When that happened, everyone cried including Suzanne. It was a beautiful moment!

Excerpted from “Tapping for Humanity,” Fall, 2014

Reducing the Fear of Ebola with TFT

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The following is an excerpt from the article “Summer Report from Celestin – TFT Trainer, Kigali” in the Fall 2014 issue of “Tapping for Humanity,”
by Pr. Celestin, Director of Rwanda Orphans Project:

 

[This is] a great moment for TFT thinkers and researchers to establish/initiate what TFT may do to help in healing and assisting victims of EBOLA.

It’s becoming a disaster, affecting many Nations in West Africa like Nigeria, Guinea, Liberia, Sierra Leone plus the Congo in Central Africa where Ebola was found for the first time in years. At the moment, the DRC counts 30 people who have died recently in the province of Equateur, far from Kivu which is our neighbor.

I know people have panic, fear of death, and are traumatized because they are not allowed to run away to neighboring countries. They have a shortage of food because other countries are not allowed to bring goods and food. If all these fears, panic, trauma and stresses can be treated then it’s a reduction in sickness.

I worked with a young boy, 4 months ago who grew up at the Orphanage and he was detected as HIV positive. After he was told that he had HIV POSITIVE, he bought a drug and he wanted to kill himself. As soon as I was told by one of our care givers who took him to hospital I took him outside the center. I offered to him something to drink with a heart ready to accept him in a loving way.

I introduced TFT to him. The three of us with a caregiver, started the tapping exercises. He is now ok. He is no more fearing death and he is very courageous to continue his studies in his final secondary school and is a high performer.

I just wanted to give this illustration knowing that TFT may eliminate HIV fear and anxiety; it can do the same for EBOLA.

Big appreciation to all TFT researchers and volunteers.